Technical Virgin: How Far is Too Far?

We had a copy of this book but passed it along to someone who needed to read it. It never came back to us. But then we got to thinking about some points in the book and decided we needed to get another copy ... which I bet will get passed along at some point. Great book to use for someone who is mentoring a group of pre-teen girls. Brings up incredibly important topics for young girls to process BEFORE they hit the teen years.

I'm a woman pushing 40, but new to the Christian dating scene, so this book was helpful for me. I initially checked it out from the library but liked it so much I ended up buying it. I'm not saying this is the most amazing book in the world, I'm saying that God can do a lot with it to help change your heart if you're struggling with sexuality and dating. Enjoy! :)

Product arrived in great shape, still reading the book, but from what i have read, a good book for teens.

My hubby and I are youth pastors at our church. I have been searching for a book just like this for our Girls Only group. I wanted something that was straight up and would go into details but not graphic details, this book is it!! She incorporates tons of Scripture in everything so it is not just her opinion. I would recommend using the surprise me button to read different sections of this book!!

I first heard about this book from a leader at my Church. She recommended that it was a good book about boys. As soon as I started reading it I couldn't put it down it was that good! I learned some really good things from this book. I recommend it to anyone!

This book lets you look retrospectively at yourself and consider what you've been doing. I also feel motivated to give a class based on the topics touched upon here. The write is funny and she puts herself at the readers level.

I read this book as I was preparing to give a talk on purity to the teenage girls at my church. Every parent of a teenage girl should read this, as well as every teenage girl.

I purchased this book in hopes that I would be able to lend it to some of my students who are struggling with these issues. I'm tempted now to forget the money I spent and just recycle the book...while certain parts of the book were good, on the whole it sends more negative messages than good ones, and doesn't REALLY spend enough time on "how far is too far?" (I'm sorry, Webster's dictionary definitions are not going to convince a teenager.)My two big criticisms:1) It reinforces the stereotypes that guys are sex-crazed addicts who are only looking to use you (the girl). Teenage girls shouldn't think that guys are perfect angels who fit the romantic stereotypes of a Mr. Darcy or Colonel Brandon, but neither should they see them as sex-hungry animals. What is that setting them up for in the future, when they're older and perhaps looking for healthy relationships?2) A direct quote about how girls SHOULD use their bodies as bargaining chips...for marriage:"Whether you realize it or not, girls have something that guys crave. Guys are continually thinking about us and how to get more of us. We are in demand. So what happens when you make a casual agreement with a guy to be just friends with benefits? Does your power increase? Do you suddenly have more of what he's looking for, or have you just given up the part of you that was the most valuable to him? The truth is that if guys are so hot for our bods and craving intimate attention, that's where our power lies. And it's not in giving ourselves away casually but in USING WHAT WE HAVE, OUR BODIES, AS BARGAINING CHIPS. In the old days, a guy knew that if he wanted sex or sex play from a girl, he had to marry her. THAT WAS HER BARGAINING CHIP. That's how she got her Prince Charming. But as girls started to crave some kind of false power, they started to give away the very bargaining chip that could GET THEM WHAT THEY ULTIMATELY WANTED."I completely and fervently disagree with the "sex is power" mentality as co-opted by certain brands of feminism that say that for women to be equal, we need to wield sex as a weapon. This is just as bad...now we're teaching girls to MANIPULATE men with their bodies so they can get...a marriage?True power is about self-sacrifice. The same would go for marriage. Manipulating a guy in any way with one's body seems to be the opposite of what a healthy view of sexuality/relationships should be about. Manipulation is wrong--no matter what the end. Bodies are not bargaining chips. Period.

This book helps me a lot understanding the Christian's view of sex better. I grew up in a culture where sex is what we commonly technically define as sexual intercourse. However it is more than that, it is giving intimacy to the other party more and more in lots different way. Knowing how intimacy is built from girls and boys point of view helps me a lot understanding why I was craving for more romance in my teens years (I was 21 when I read this book, and I wish I read it earlier - and even for young adults, or even any age, this book still cover great topic).This book doesn't forget to include how grace works if you have been in this situation. I really can relate this book. Sometimes this kind of topic lies under the carpet, not many people really speaks about it or not many people have clear explanation and guidance to deal with this issue. Yes there are some sex terms that I don't understand but beside that this book is great and it helps me a lot in my ministry.