--- product_id: 1314081 title: "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage" price: "HK$319" currency: HKD in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.hk/products/1314081-his-needs-her-needs-building-an-affair-proof-marriage store_origin: HK region: Hong Kong --- # His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage **Price:** HK$319 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage - **How much does it cost?** HK$319 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.hk](https://www.desertcart.hk/products/1314081-his-needs-her-needs-building-an-affair-proof-marriage) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description In the classic bestseller His Needs, Her Needs , Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs. This revised and expanded edition has been updated throughout and includes new writing that highlights the special significance of intimate emotional needs in marriage. Review: At the start of our journey... we have read this book... - This is a really special book, and I am hoping that desertcart continues to make this product available for purchase. I bought two hard cover copies and was a little distressed to see that it is already temporarily out of stock! Really hoping it becomes available soon because I have a LIST of persons to give this to. I am currently engaged and my dad borrowed this book from our church library for me to read. Wasn't too interested at first, but then I began to read this book (Had never heard of it before)... and was so surprised and gutted at the same time. Wow - this drove so many truths right down into my being - it was amazing how much I felt that this was something both my fiance and I NEEDED... And we have read it together and spoken about it countless times. Also, in addition to dealing with our own issues, when our friends are going through rough times in their marriages, we can actually UNDERSTAND the difficulties they face. Marriage is no easy relationship - and that is an understatement when we look all around us. Thanks to the author of this book we are going into our marriage later this year, with our eyes open to many things that we did not understand before - matters that seemed vague and seemingly trivial are not so AT ALL. For me personally, it was like the pieces of a puzzle coming together - in my 35 years of existence as a human being and some previous relationship experiences - there are some things here that became much clearer and things I wish I had understood before. Dr. Harley shows the five top-order emotional needs of men and women and how each can meet the other's needs, in the context of 'affair-proofing' your marriage. Also, what stood out for me was that these needs are VERY different and therefore requires understanding, patience and WORK. But what you can begin to experience after reading this book, understanding the concepts, accepting and applying them, can make your relationship PHENOMENAL. My fiance and I have become closer and our interactions with each other have significantly improved our relationship (more love 'deposits' in our love banks - go read it for yourself!). Also, I found some of Dr. Harley's videos on youtube.com: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGjriUcN39Q - This is the first in a six video series. I sent these to a couple of my colleagues, and they have nothing but the most outstanding reviews to give on these videos and want to purchase the book. Thank you desertcart for making this available!... and please... we want more! :) Review: Excellent to Read While Dating, too! - Let me start by stating that I am a divorced woman, not because of an affair, but due to an unfortunate combination of accident and mental illness that befell my former husband. Prior to the incidents, our marriage was great, so I considered myself to be an expert on how to have a successful marriage, since it wasn't for any of the "usual" reasons that we divorced. My first experience with dating after marriage made me realize that even if I know what it theoretically takes to make a marriage work, I had very little knowledge about how to find the right partner. So, why would I read a book like this in my situation? Because my sister told me to! Okay, maybe that's a silly reason, but it really does come down to it. On the advice of a friend, she read this book and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura just before she met, dated, and then married her husband. She recommended them to me because they helped her to have the right mindset of how to handle the balance of "his needs" and "her needs" that comes up in any relationship. She was able to make sure that she recognized and met his needs, and then communicated to him what her needs were. After reading this book, I agree with her that it is a great book to read for anyone who wants to be in a relationship and to make it work. Knowing and respecting what is important to one's partner is essential, especially because so often men and women have different needs. Having this knowledge of these needs is incredibly helpful as I venture out into the dating world again, because it helps me to have a great framework to build my evaluation of potential partners from. I'm currently in a relationship, and it has definitely helped me to keep perspective. These concepts will be helpful in marriage, but they are also helpful before the marriage happens. It's a great book, and an interesting read with great information. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #61,963 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #42 in Sociology of Marriage & Family (Books) #281 in Marriage | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 out of 5 stars 3,798 Reviews | ## Images ![His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81xOLrq1aYL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ At the start of our journey... we have read this book... *by N***7 on May 12, 2015* This is a really special book, and I am hoping that Amazon continues to make this product available for purchase. I bought two hard cover copies and was a little distressed to see that it is already temporarily out of stock! Really hoping it becomes available soon because I have a LIST of persons to give this to. I am currently engaged and my dad borrowed this book from our church library for me to read. Wasn't too interested at first, but then I began to read this book (Had never heard of it before)... and was so surprised and gutted at the same time. Wow - this drove so many truths right down into my being - it was amazing how much I felt that this was something both my fiance and I NEEDED... And we have read it together and spoken about it countless times. Also, in addition to dealing with our own issues, when our friends are going through rough times in their marriages, we can actually UNDERSTAND the difficulties they face. Marriage is no easy relationship - and that is an understatement when we look all around us. Thanks to the author of this book we are going into our marriage later this year, with our eyes open to many things that we did not understand before - matters that seemed vague and seemingly trivial are not so AT ALL. For me personally, it was like the pieces of a puzzle coming together - in my 35 years of existence as a human being and some previous relationship experiences - there are some things here that became much clearer and things I wish I had understood before. Dr. Harley shows the five top-order emotional needs of men and women and how each can meet the other's needs, in the context of 'affair-proofing' your marriage. Also, what stood out for me was that these needs are VERY different and therefore requires understanding, patience and WORK. But what you can begin to experience after reading this book, understanding the concepts, accepting and applying them, can make your relationship PHENOMENAL. My fiance and I have become closer and our interactions with each other have significantly improved our relationship (more love 'deposits' in our love banks - go read it for yourself!). Also, I found some of Dr. Harley's videos on youtube.com: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGjriUcN39Q - This is the first in a six video series. I sent these to a couple of my colleagues, and they have nothing but the most outstanding reviews to give on these videos and want to purchase the book. Thank you Amazon for making this available!... and please... we want more! :) ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Excellent to Read While Dating, too! *by B***R on March 21, 2013* Let me start by stating that I am a divorced woman, not because of an affair, but due to an unfortunate combination of accident and mental illness that befell my former husband. Prior to the incidents, our marriage was great, so I considered myself to be an expert on how to have a successful marriage, since it wasn't for any of the "usual" reasons that we divorced. My first experience with dating after marriage made me realize that even if I know what it theoretically takes to make a marriage work, I had very little knowledge about how to find the right partner. So, why would I read a book like this in my situation? Because my sister told me to! Okay, maybe that's a silly reason, but it really does come down to it. On the advice of a friend, she read this book and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura just before she met, dated, and then married her husband. She recommended them to me because they helped her to have the right mindset of how to handle the balance of "his needs" and "her needs" that comes up in any relationship. She was able to make sure that she recognized and met his needs, and then communicated to him what her needs were. After reading this book, I agree with her that it is a great book to read for anyone who wants to be in a relationship and to make it work. Knowing and respecting what is important to one's partner is essential, especially because so often men and women have different needs. Having this knowledge of these needs is incredibly helpful as I venture out into the dating world again, because it helps me to have a great framework to build my evaluation of potential partners from. I'm currently in a relationship, and it has definitely helped me to keep perspective. These concepts will be helpful in marriage, but they are also helpful before the marriage happens. It's a great book, and an interesting read with great information. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Marriage Changing!! *by O***E on January 15, 2026* I would give this book 10 stars if I could. I have not been happy in my marriage for many years. This book helped me identify my needs and also my husband's. I was able to have a very open and honest conversation about these things with him. With this book I really think we are the road to healing, happiness and love. 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