His Needs, Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last (How to Identify and Satisfy 10 Vital Needs in Your Marriage – A Practical Relationship Guide for Couples)

His Needs, Her Needs is a powerful and practical guide for strengthening relationships and marriages. Dr. Harley does an excellent job of breaking down the 10 vital emotional needs of men and women in a way that’s clear, relatable, and actionable. The examples and stories throughout the book make it easy to see how these principles play out in real life, and the strategies for meeting each other’s needs are simple to understand yet deeply impactful. What I love most is how balanced the book feels—it doesn’t just point out problems, it gives real solutions that couples can use right away to build trust, intimacy, and long-lasting love. Whether you’re newly married or have been together for decades, this book provides insights that can truly transform your relationship. Highly recommended for anyone who wants to make their marriage stronger and more fulfilling.

This book is written in a very readable, pragmatic way. The author has such a good understanding of the subject matter for both women and men, that it felt when we read it like he had been listening to our private conversations before writing the book. It is not one-sided as far as gender is concerned. Both of us identified things in the book we have been doing reasonably well, and both of us identified things that we can work on – together. Sometimes people are skeptical of this kind of material because they don’t want judged or condemned. After reading the book, both my wife and I came away kind of grateful for the practical advice and understanding of the author. Although we bought this and a few other books to try to learn how to overcome gaps of enthusiasm in the bedroom in our otherwise happy marriage, we found that it opened discussions between us that enriched all aspects of our life together, and not just the one that we were worried about. The book does not have a “religious” slant, so may be suitable for secular minded people. However, people of faith will benefit from it as well. The principles expressed in the book support the values taught in the various world faiths, as well as what most marriages center around- longetivity, reliability, and harmony.

This book came at a perfect time. I was listening to Relevant Radio and this book was mentioned. I thought it would be a good read, and as I finished the book found out that friends are going through some very difficult marital problems. This book came to me on purpose at a perfect time. Not only it helped me see both sides of the struggle my friends are going through, but they agrees to read this book together and it’s too soon to tell but it might have saved their marriage. This book has wonderful advice, I would trust more to this book than any marriage counselor. Anyone who is looking to strengthen their marriage or is going through difficult time, definitely recommend reading it.

What a wonderful workbook! I bought a copy for myself and for my husband. We would read a chapter or so a night then talk about the questions and things in the. Chapter. Really a great way to spark conversation and remind you what’s important in your marriage and how to communicate. We’ve both made our share of mistakes and been married 35 years. We were in a rut on the inside even though to the rest of the world we looked like the perfect couple. We wanted to actually BE that! We shed a lot of tears, got angry over each others mistakes and are working through the hurt, anger and all the other emotions that come along with that! But - is it worth it? For us yes. We decided we still love each other and want to rekindle the spark. It’s been about 9 weeks and we’ve really both seen tremendous change in each other and are committed to talking every single day about ourselves, our marriage, and all the things you talk about when you’re dating or engaged. The things that got lost. No the book didn’t solve everything. There’s still the hurt, guilt, anger and sadness. But it’s managed and we know how to support each other when those moments come up) (ie: your watching a movie and there’s a scene that’s a reminder to what one of us has done) and instead of ignoring it or becoming defensive we pause the movie we talk and sometimes cry or let the anger out - and we work through it now. It takes work and commitment but if you want to repair the relationship it’s a really good book!!!! Have a highlighter and pen and make it your own!

Read this every evening with my wife. We enjoyed the book. Good information. Not all topics or situations didn’t apply to us but informative

This book was such an insightful read for both me and my partner. His Needs, Her Needs dives deep into understanding what makes relationships thrive by addressing the fundamental needs of both individuals. It breaks down practical steps that are easy to follow and apply in real life. The author explains key concepts like communication, emotional intimacy, and understanding your partner’s unique needs in a way that feels relatable and actionable. I especially loved how the examples throughout the book provided clarity and helped us identify areas where we could improve as a couple. One of the best parts is that we shared this book with some of our friends, and they loved it too! It’s the kind of book that sparks meaningful conversations and brings people closer together. Pros: Practical advice with actionable steps Clear writing style that’s easy to understand Examples and real-world applications Cons: Some parts might feel repetitive, but they reinforce key points well. Overall, I highly recommend His Needs, Her Needs to any couple looking to strengthen their relationship. It’s not just a book—it’s a guide to building lasting love.

His needs Her needs is a fantastic book. And my wife and I have bought a dozen copies over the years and recommended this book to so many more. It is such a great book about how to affair proof your marriage and have wonderful everlasting relationships!

A manual for how to have an amazing marriage. Without it, both of us were flying blind, causing all sorts of problems.

Wonderful book. Dust read for all couples

First of all, you should know why you are buying it - It is a good read for anyone who wants to take some tips and implement them to improve matrimony relationship. You can understand the different needs and misunderstandings. Though the entire text might not be useful or related, as it is based on the cultural domain of the author, and might not match the exact situations / it has some universal ideas which can lead to a better relationship. Overall it is worth reading!