The Way of the Superior Man [Paperback] [Jan 01, 2017] David Deida Paperback – January 1, 2017

Before I go too much into this review below, I'd like to clarify a few things about myself. I'm a married man, 24 years old, with a good career. I generally consider myself a happy guy, although, I'm always looking for ways to improve myself and my marriage (who isn't?).I'm also a computer programmer (professionally, and for fun), and wouldn't consider myself an artistic, abstract, or religious type of person. Quite the opposite, actually. If anything, I'm a very logical, scientific, and straightforward person.With all that said, this was an *excellent book*. This was the first relationship book I've ever read, and ended up buying it because a friend referred it to me as a must-read book that will give you superpowers in your relationship. I was very skeptical, but figured I'd give it a read anyhow.Now, onto the review!This book discusses a series of rules and guidelines that masculine people should follow. While this book is not written exclusively for men (straight, gay, or otherwise)--it is written specifically for masculine people. If you're a feminine person, this book is not for you. This book is specifically written as a guide for masculine people to follow, which explains a lot about masculinity, feminism, and how following certain guidelines will help you live your life to a fuller extent, and subsequently, increase the quality of your personal relationships.Some of the topics covered in the book are:- What are traits of masculine and feminine people?- Which category do you fall into? (masculine, feminine, neutral)- Which sort of partner will you get along with best? (If you're a masculine man, you'll likely get along well with a feminine girl.)- Which things must you prioritize in your life to feel fully content? (hint: it's not your relationship, although your relationship is important)- How can you avoid and resolve relationship issues with your partner?- Ways in which you can improve the quality of your relationship.- How to 'let go' of societal stereotypes about the genders, and live the way your genetics tell you.More than anything, this is a book about living a full, purposeful, and happy life with your partner. This book examines the roles that men and women play in relationships, and really analyzes the root causes of what drives both sexes. In then offers advice to maximize your enjoyment and success along the way.The book is broken up into a series of short chapters, each no more than a page or two in length. Each chapter discusses a guideline, and explains what the guideline means, how it works, and how to put it into practice.Overall, I'd say this was a great book. While it did seem very 'preachy' at some points, the content of the book was excellent, and has really helped me understand some of my own faults and idiosyncrasies, and has given me great advice to follow through on. Furthermore, this book has really helped me to 'understand' my wife better. It gave me useful insight to see through the root of problems, arguments, and other things--and has actually helped me out quite a bit in a very short amount of time.Even if you're not interested in relationship books at all (like me), this book is definitely worth a read as it is more of a manual to understanding yourself and your relationships, and will serve you well.

This is an idealistic read. Period. It would be a challenge for any real relationship to meet the goals that Deida sets out but it's good he wrote them anyway so we can all challenge ourselves to aspire to them.It's not about men and women but it can be applied to any relationship when there is a polarity of masculine and feminine. I happen to be a woman who wants a "superior man" so I'd recommend any women who want one of those to read it anyway even though the author directs everything he's saying to men. The chapters are short but have bite to them, so you might have to take a break to really ponder some of Deida's opinions as you go.Some women may criticize this book as being misogynistic because it does place the man in a superior light. However, the book doesn't put down women in any sort of way. Deida only puts men in a superior light by saying that if a woman is upset, he has the power to relieve her stress by giving her love and supporting her, rather than closing off emotionally. He isn't really talking about overpowering her and dominating her like she's nothing, he's talking about ravishing her and making sure she feels wanted and needed when she's unhappy.Deida is talking about masculine power from a different perspective than we're used to hearing. In fact, he doesn't even really limit masculine power to males. He clearly states that a healthy relationship has polarities, so a woman could be masculine and the man could be feminine, as long as both roles and powers are understood. He also praises feminine power, basically saying it's an ocean of love and belonging that is worth worshipping.So, overall, this is a great read. He does talk about sex a lot but there's a deeper meaning to what he's saying. It's really about how to open up so that you can properly cherish the natural polarities in a relationship. Rather than closing of yourself emotionally whenever a fight happens.

Deida gives a perspective on masculinity, and mascuine-feminine relations that I've never seen or heard anywhere else. I'm not buying everything he's selling, and think he sometime panders a bit much to the ladies, who are after all the main consumers of this kind of stuff (and yes, I was introduced to his writings and videos by a woman), but he clearly wrote this book for men, with a minimum of new-agey airy-fairy claptrap, and a lot of direct, straightforward, in-your-face discussion of how things tend to be with men and women; that makes a helluva lot of sense, and will probably jibe with your life experiences too.I also very much appreciate that this book is written in short, bite-sized chapters that are quick and to the point, which makes it convenient for a busy working man, who doesn't have hours and days to fill, to sit down and derive nourishment in those short periods of time at home when his woman is quiet enough for him to read ;-). His lectures, for lack of a better word, are thought provoking and inspiring, and a worthwhile call to introspection, positive attitude adjustment, and manly self-improvement. Very good stuff.

Great Read

If You Want To Improve Your Day To Day Life By Using Your Masculine Energy & Remember Who You Are This Book Is For You Great Insight.

Good read

I’m definitely ordering for my brothers, this book is filled with such motivation speech of how to overcome you’re daily life challenges.