Women Who Love Too Much Paperback – 2 Sept. 2004

Great product

I've never said this about a book, as rarely has it been true, but this book DID change my life. In an abusive relationship for 4 years, I was having serious psychotherapy, and my emotional and mental health was at an all time low. My best friend told me about this book as she'd seen it in a magazine, and I bought it. Yes the therapy built the foundations and helped me to see that I needed to start loving myself... but this book somehow made it all click together."Loving yourself" is a cliche but think about it - what do we do for those we love? We want to protect them. We keep them safe. We want the best for them. Its not a woolly concept! But for those who have never really loved themselves, it takes a lot of work to really understand HOW to do it and what it means.In relationships with those were love, that love is displayed by actions, behaviour, and boundaries that demonstrate that love and care. This is obvious if you have never been someone with low self worth.... but if you do suffer from it, real self-love is a hard concept to really understand. And then to practice and apply it consistently!!!! I know as I've been there and done that journey, and this book, with the many illustrations (in case studies) really helped me to have that lightbulb moment.... It just clicked in my head and I got it. I said "I'm NOT doing this anymore, I'm just NOT". And I meant it. It was over.That was 8 years ago and I'm now happily married to the love of my life and my soulmate. (Importantly was that in between the two relationships I decided I was happy being alone, happy just being me for a while. I had given up that search. I decided I was whole in myself and deserved to focus on me for a bit).So, this book was my turning point which allowed me to break that destructive cycle. I've lent it to many others and it's now been lost... I'm now buying another for a girl who is in that place where I was 8 years ago.To the author, Robyn, THANK you.

Every woman should read this book. There are extreme examples of upbringings/romantic relationships but then you only need to relate to the 'characters' behviour, not their upbringing. This book has changed my life and the lives of my friends who I lent it to. Free yourself people

In therapeutic terms the book is accurate and a tremendous resource for women addicted to men who don't love them. However. In spiritual terms. The book is useless. Having an intense love for someone is a spiritual feeling. HOWEVER, it is not all that it seems. It shows us up to help us heal wounds that reside in us. Only by bringing these feelings into awareness (sometimes through the mirage of 'love') can we begin to change our automatic addiction.I had a problem that dominated my entire adult life. Namely that I was attracted to men that allowed me to right the wrong my absent father had done to me. I knew this from the age of 17. Yet I wasn't able to stop recreating the same situation until I was 31. I would fall hopelessly in love with the man who showed me I wasn't good enough. And wonder why all the nice guys chased me. And why I wasn't interested in them.Meditation ultimately illuminated me as a four-year-old child waiting for my father to pick me up and showed me I had been waiting for all my relationships to 'pick me up'. Unsurprisingly that never came. All I received was pain, suffering and desire. I had to label the last addiction as 'I do not deserve love' in my phone. And every time he called I would say to myself 'I do deserve love'. I blocked him on every platform, lost friends through our acquaintances and went to the police for a restraining order. At that point I had been in turmoil with him (daily crying, his favourite thing was to say he loved me, and not return my calls for weeks - again and again and again). Still I desired him! He did exactly what my father did. The last guy was the worse. Many years after I escaped and started recovery. I forced myself into a relationship with a man I wasn't initially attracted to because initially I was scared I would go for the same absent father guy again and the distraction I thought would prevent me. Frankly, I was at breaking point and desperate to stop hurting myself. Over two years I began to see the nice guy differently each day. He grew more attractive and nicer with each day I stopped wanting pain. Still that desire for pain was so strong in me. It was only a total reordering of my life when I gave it up. New career. New friends. New hobbies. And importantly a meditation practice that helped me see and recover from my addiction to painful romantic relationships with men.I also found the science behind my addiction beneficial to learn about in a book called 'Why you love a guy who doesn't love you. And how to stop'. Recommended reading if you are a woman, addicted to love. Like I was and NEED the science as to what is happening to you.I have been happily married for years now. And when I hear friends describe what I suffered for my twenties I tell them to read this book and go to a Vipassana meditation retreat. The book is written for other therapists and provides little in the way of clear guidance for how to change your behaviour. Through meditation you gain awareness. And in awareness you can let go of even the strongest patterns. I wish you total recovery. We all deserve to be loved.

This book should only be read if you’re ready for change …A stunning book, a much needed book and one that I will continue to read for the rest of my life! To say it changed me and my life (for the better) is an understatement.

It changed my whole outlook and perspective on my relationship and my attitude towards it. I saw myself multiple times in her explanations and stories, I felt seen and it opened the door to better understanding myself. the stories she tells to explain what co-dependence is and what it looks like and how it can feel, makes it relatable and easier to understand. It debunks how you see love in movies and books, it opens your eyes to how unhealthy it all is because its not about the heartache and the yearning.Definitely read it, especially if you feel like you're giving and giving and getting nothing back in return. The whole book is an epiphany. I want to thank Robin Norwood for changing how I am for the better :) Thank you Robin! Thank you Universe for leading me to this book!!