Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart Paperback – June 12, 2006

I first read "Why Men Love Bitches" before reading this, on the suggestion from a friend who swore by it (she followed it throughout the dating process with her now-husband, who, coincidentally, is a gorgeous man). On such a great recommendation, I had to at least read it and check it out. I won't go into great lengths about it, since this is a review of the second book, but it is an incredible read that will seriously change any nice girl's life!!Having loved the first book so much, and being that I do hope to get married someday soon, I went ahead and ordered the second book, this one. It was at least as good as Argov's first book, if not even better. First off, I need to address the basic idea behind this book (as well as her first), because I think there are probably a lot of women out there who will be put off by the title and dismiss it just for that. These books are not really about being what people typically think of for the term she uses - it is not about being mean, rude, spiteful, bitter, or any of those things. What it really is about is just loving yourself, maintaining your dignity and pride, living and loving your life, and how doing all of that will earn the respect of any man (as the author says and I do agree with, no man is going to marry a woman he does not respect). The book is brilliant because most women (myself included, in the past) believe that once they meet a man they are into, they need to put their lives on hold and make him their number one priority to keep him around. Ms. Argov advises the exact opposite, to keep living your life in a way that makes you happy, and that men will actually respond to that. That is basically what this book (as well as her first) is about - putting yourself first. Women are also made to believe that mindblowing sex (and the sooner, the better) is also important to "snagging" a man. Again, completely wrong, and this book instead stresses the importance of appealing to his sexual imagination, which basically means him being sexually attracted to you, but also not getting everything off the bat and instead "giving" yourself sexually in increments, so that you appeal to his imagination and he gets to enjoy the chase. I have to say though, even though the principles behind her advice are all great, I will not lie - some of the things you have to do, they're hard!! It's hard to not obsess when the man you like doesn't call for a few days (and he most likely will test you this way, because that's what they do - they test you to see how you'll react). It's hard not to ask why you haven't heard from him, where he was last night, is he seeing anyone else, etc. etc. It's also hard to not sleep with a man too soon that you are really attracted to (especially when he is trying to get you to). But if you can force yourself to stay disciplined, it WILL work.Now I am going to provide a personal testimonial. Not only do I know someone who has used Ms. Argov's advice to now be married to the man of her dreams, but I am currently dating someone that I have been using the exact principles advised in Argov's two books. I have only been out with this man six times now - still kind of early to know how it will end, so I can't tell you that, but I can tell you how well it's gone so far. Last night (my most recent date with this man) I went out with him and do you know what happened? I get to his place (it was my turn to go to him, I do NOT just go to him every time like I might have before discovering these books), and he had prepared a candlelight dinner for me. Prior to my arrival, he called to find out what kind of food I like/ don't like, he wouldn't let me help prepare it or clean up afterward. Sixth date, mind you - I know women who are married who have never had their husband prepare them any kind of dinner, let alone a romantic one. He also told me (before I left) how unbelievably attracted to me he was (not the first time either - I as well as others who have read this book know that part of that is because of me being somewhat "unattainable"), how he always has a good time with me, and how interesting he thinks I am - he said most women, he likes the kissing and all of that but after that he usually doesn't want them around, but that with me, he actually likes my company. My response? I just smiled, and said "Thanks. You know I always have fun spending time with you too" (others who have read these books know why "fun" is such an important word). I mean, the guy is practically gushing all over me - and not while trying to grope or score with me while saying all this (very critical fact). It's important to note that this man is sexy, successful, and could probably have just about any woman he wants. And I truly believe it is because I have been following the basic principles Argov presents in her book. I can also tell you in the past, when I did NOT do what is suggested in this book, things did not exactly work out. I was always that girl who tried too hard but got taken advantage of, who gave my heart and didn't get much back, who basically did all the work if it did get to the point of a relationship, or many times, before things got too serious, was told, "There's just something missing", etc. etc. So I am a total believer in Sherry Argov's books.I know I've written a lot but I want to make it clear to all of you how truly amazing this (and her other book) really is. This really is what to read to "convince the man of your dreams that you are the woman of his dreams". It works, it works, it works, it works, it works! I can't stress it enough. I hope every marriage-minded woman out there goes and reads this book because it truly changed my life. If there were a dating religion out there to follow, this would be the dating bible!!!

I read this book in two days! This book has completely shifted my mindset on male psychology in dating. There are so many things that this book revealed to me that explain why things haven’t worked out or why I’ve felt like crap about situationships or relationships of my past. Sherry Argov really does an excellent job at sharing the male perspective in a revealing and insightful way. I have learned so much!

Easy reading and entertaining.

Its very insightful good read for young women! As a former nice girl Ive applied the principles from the book and it works!

I think the first book was a great base and you can def apply it to marriage and this was more like a book where u can also apply to dating

I think a lot of people don't care for this book because they don't pay attention to the subtitle on the cover: "A Guide for Women Who are Too Nice." If that doesn't sound like you this book might still be useful (especially the chapter on the tests men put women through), but this might just not be the book for you. In this book "bitch" means a woman with self-esteem and a happy lifestyle that she actively tends to. And because the bitch is happy and has self-esteem she knows what kind of behavior she will or will not accept from others and has the strength of character to walk away from anyone who tries to use or abuse her with feminine dignity. It does not mean acting like an a$$hole or using other people. Just want to clear that up.If you're the kind of woman who is constantly at a man's beck and call (he calls you 3 hours or less before he wants to see you for a "date", and the date is actually just a netflix and chill date at his place). Is afraid of voicing her opinion (a man asks you what kind of restaurant you want to go to and your go to response is "whatever you want sounds good, anything is alright with me.") Thinks cooking a man a gourmet meal (and afterwards having wild sex with him) in the first month of dating is a surefire way to get a man's love and respect this book is for you. To some, the woman I just described might sound too ridiculous to exist, but I've personally seen women who really are simply too nice, too fast with men and are honestly confused why their home cooked meal made for a man on the second date hasn't landed them a boyfriend/husband. While I didn't go to that extreme, I have personally been guilty of accepting lame dates that required no planning whatsoever at the last minute and being afraid to ever express a negative opinion of something lest I offend a man. More than any other book on dating this book helped me date with more self-esteem and boundaries.This is a very practical book for women who tend to get walked all over in dating and relationships. Whether it's due to low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, or an overarching need to please men at all costs this book gives you a good reality check. Many women think the fool-proof way to get love, respect, and commitment is to lavish attention and care on men very early on in the dating process. This book talks about how yes, men do want attention and care from women, but they want that attention and care from a woman of principles with a backbone. Men will happily have sex/take advantage of a 'yes woman,' but they rarely love those women and it's even more rare that they want any kind of long term committed relationship with those women. Women think being extra nice and agreeable about everything will get them love and commitment, but the reality is that being a push over means you will never get a man's respect. And if a man cannot respect you he certainly cannot love or commit to you in the way you probably want him to.I think this book is also invaluable because it talks about the tests men put women through. I'm not sure if all men test women, but I've observed the behavior described in this book in some of my friend's relationships so I know at least some men test women. Lots of books for men talk at length about the tests women put men through and very few books ever acknowledge that men test women just as much. It was seriously such a breath of fresh air seeing something not only call out the testing behavior of men, but also gives suggestions on how to handle it without being walked over or annoyed to death. Even women who aren't too nice can find these tests difficult to deal with which is why I'd still recommend checking this book out to any woman.